Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they're going to catch you in next - Franklin P Jones

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Karma is a bitch and she lives to serve it cold

I wish Nic was here - she would laugh and laugh at how fate has played out for that woman

See this is what happened - a long time ago in a galaxy far away there was a parenting forum (always a bad idea) and then there was a smaller forum to the side where a number of people connected and yes, discussed issues and posts from the main forum.  Was is wrong?  Not any more wrong or different from person a emailing person b in an office to rant about what person c had said or done.  Not the best behaviour, but not uncommon or necessarily even negative.

But then that woman got the guilts and decided to confess all to the reigning queen of horror on the main forum and as a result the users on the side forum were outed and flamed.  Which in the end was a good thing, because at that point I said 'screw you, I'm going home' and in best Cartman style left parenting forums for good.

Fast forward a million years and that woman is in the news for having a twin die in a home birth tragedy.  I feel very bad and angry for that dead baby but I don't feel bad for the mother at all.  She chose not to listen to doctors, professionals and, according to her testimony at the inquest, her unregistered midwife, and went ahead with a home birth.  Which directly led to the death of her child.

All this because when she had child two a doctor manipulated her physically to dislodge the placenta and she developed PTSD and developed  a fear of hospitals.  Instead of looking for a sympathetic OB who could help her overcome her negative experience, she  went forth with a series of home births.  Now she doesn't get stressed by the dislodgement of placenta's, she eats them.

I would think that the loss of a baby would well outweigh the discomfort of having a doctor remove a placenta, but given the modern view of midwifery - that a life is not the ultimate goal of home birth, I rather think that woman will be relishing her martyrdom right now.  She will feel powerful and comfortable in being the one who controlled her decisions (and therefore the outcome).  She probably doesn't even feel a twinge of doubt about 'hiring' Lisa Barrett who is already being investigated for a number of baby deaths in home birth situations.  In fact Ms Barrett has precided over the fatal births of 5 babies now - at which point is she a serial killer?  And if you are a mother who knows every detail about those fatalities and you choose to use her?  What kind of mother uses a serial killer to assist in the birth of her baby?

Me? I think she should be charged with gross negligence and her kids removed before they develop allergies to the nut milk that she prefers over formula (and that is another story).

Nic, I hope you are somewhere laughing your arse off.